Cleaning house and shaping character

Earlier this summer, a dear friend began Cleaning House: A Mom's Twelve-Month Experiment to Rid Her Home of Youth Entitlement by Kay Wills Wyma. She invited her friends to join her in reading the book. I passed. But, after hearing another friend praise the book and having an opportunity to review the book, I joined her on her journey.

Basically, Wyma realized that her children, ages 4 to 14, were a bit spoiled and ill-equipped to "fly on their own" later in life. For 12 months, she addressed a different responsibility each month. She started with the basics - making beds and decluttering bedroom floors. Other months included preparing meals, cleaning bathrooms, maintaining the yard, working outside the home, washing laundry, running errands and more.

As you might expect, she encountered much resistance initially. But, with a bit of whining and grumbling, her kids rose to the occasion. I was more inspired by the heart change in her kids than the behavior changes she saw through this "experiment."

Wyma is a Christian, and she weaves her faith into the story. Honestly, I would have enjoyed an even greater connection to her faith throughout the book. We were created for work, even before the fall. Wyma's efforts at training her children tapped into this part of who they are, in my opinion.

This book is more of Wyma's journal through her journey than a practical, application-for-my-family kind of book. But, I enjoyed it and have been inspired to do a little "experimenting" in my own family.

I received this book for free from Waterbrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review.

Bind the captives!

I've probably seen too many pirate movies. The idea of captives totally resonates with me. I'm so visual; I can just picture a pirate prodding his bound, helpless captives off the plank.

Lately, I've wrestled with a mostly irrational fear. While the fear coming to pass is a possibility, it's something I can do nothing about. I find myself rationalizing, pleading with God, ignoring it - I've tried the full array of ineffective solutions.

But God, in his tender mercy, keeps drawing me back to 2 Corinthians 10:5 -

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

I keep picturing these fearful thoughts - bound, gagged, handed over to Christ. He's the victor; he knows what to do with these lies. Every time one crops up, I wrestle it loose and hand it over.

But, there's more to the verse. I've been pondering what Paul means by demolishing arguments that set themselves up against the knowledge of God. I hope I'm not misinterpreting, but I believe I need to take demolish every rationalization I make, every thought I have about why something wouldn't happen to me. Those things are lies in contrast with the truth of the gospel and God's great love for me.

So, I will continue to ask Christ to make these fears and lies "walk the plank." Instead, I'll remember the great, merciful love he has for me and rest in his care.

Extending boundaries

Our kiddos are growing up. It's unavoidable, and so obvious, as D stretches out to almost my height. Wow. As they grow, Brian and I realize that we need to stretch their boundaries as well. I've been really contemplating this as I've read Cleaning House by Kay Wyma. But, I've discovered it's more about extending their responsibilities than their privileges. Our kids are capable. We need to let them take charge. Armed with this information, we've challenged Mimi, or promoted her, to appetizer chef. Basically, we've tasked her with preparing something for us to nibble on as the afternoon turns into early evening. She loves the creativity, socialization, service and, frankly, power. The girl likes to be in charge! For the moment, she's simply pulling together fruits and veggies, crackers, and cheese. But, it fills the family's ever-hungry tummies with healthy(ish) snacks and empties our frig. Today, she and D took the reins at Trader Joe's and selected cheeses that will grace our table this week. D chose Gouda; Mimi chose goat cheese. I'm looking forward to both of them! As we're stretching them, the Lord is stretching me - more like prying my fingers away from my desire to control everything. I'm thankful that He continues to shape and conform me. And, the benefits keep coming. Sweet Mimi just asked if I wanted a glass of water as she headed to the kitchen. Love that girl and her big heart!

Who influenced CS Lewis?

I love reading books by CS Lewis. Hs way of thinking is engaging and inspiriing to me. When I heard about "From the Library of CS Lewis," I was intrigued, eager to explore the writings of men and women who influenced Lewis. The book does not disappoint. It is packed with exerpts from a variety of authors. An excellent resource. However, it's not a book that one would sit down and read through. The writings are grouped by topic, but I found them a bit disjointed to simply read one after another. Each had "something to chew on," more like a devotional. I wanted to pause after reading each one to ponder its truths. I think it will be an excellent resource in the future. Additionally, the book does not go into detail about how each writer influenced Lewis. I received this book for free from Waterbrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review.