Cleaning house and shaping character

Earlier this summer, a dear friend began Cleaning House: A Mom's Twelve-Month Experiment to Rid Her Home of Youth Entitlement by Kay Wills Wyma. She invited her friends to join her in reading the book. I passed. But, after hearing another friend praise the book and having an opportunity to review the book, I joined her on her journey.

Basically, Wyma realized that her children, ages 4 to 14, were a bit spoiled and ill-equipped to "fly on their own" later in life. For 12 months, she addressed a different responsibility each month. She started with the basics - making beds and decluttering bedroom floors. Other months included preparing meals, cleaning bathrooms, maintaining the yard, working outside the home, washing laundry, running errands and more.

As you might expect, she encountered much resistance initially. But, with a bit of whining and grumbling, her kids rose to the occasion. I was more inspired by the heart change in her kids than the behavior changes she saw through this "experiment."

Wyma is a Christian, and she weaves her faith into the story. Honestly, I would have enjoyed an even greater connection to her faith throughout the book. We were created for work, even before the fall. Wyma's efforts at training her children tapped into this part of who they are, in my opinion.

This book is more of Wyma's journal through her journey than a practical, application-for-my-family kind of book. But, I enjoyed it and have been inspired to do a little "experimenting" in my own family.

I received this book for free from Waterbrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review.

Bind the captives!

I've probably seen too many pirate movies. The idea of captives totally resonates with me. I'm so visual; I can just picture a pirate prodding his bound, helpless captives off the plank.

Lately, I've wrestled with a mostly irrational fear. While the fear coming to pass is a possibility, it's something I can do nothing about. I find myself rationalizing, pleading with God, ignoring it - I've tried the full array of ineffective solutions.

But God, in his tender mercy, keeps drawing me back to 2 Corinthians 10:5 -

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

I keep picturing these fearful thoughts - bound, gagged, handed over to Christ. He's the victor; he knows what to do with these lies. Every time one crops up, I wrestle it loose and hand it over.

But, there's more to the verse. I've been pondering what Paul means by demolishing arguments that set themselves up against the knowledge of God. I hope I'm not misinterpreting, but I believe I need to take demolish every rationalization I make, every thought I have about why something wouldn't happen to me. Those things are lies in contrast with the truth of the gospel and God's great love for me.

So, I will continue to ask Christ to make these fears and lies "walk the plank." Instead, I'll remember the great, merciful love he has for me and rest in his care.

Extending boundaries

Our kiddos are growing up. It's unavoidable, and so obvious, as D stretches out to almost my height. Wow. As they grow, Brian and I realize that we need to stretch their boundaries as well. I've been really contemplating this as I've read Cleaning House by Kay Wyma. But, I've discovered it's more about extending their responsibilities than their privileges. Our kids are capable. We need to let them take charge. Armed with this information, we've challenged Mimi, or promoted her, to appetizer chef. Basically, we've tasked her with preparing something for us to nibble on as the afternoon turns into early evening. She loves the creativity, socialization, service and, frankly, power. The girl likes to be in charge! For the moment, she's simply pulling together fruits and veggies, crackers, and cheese. But, it fills the family's ever-hungry tummies with healthy(ish) snacks and empties our frig. Today, she and D took the reins at Trader Joe's and selected cheeses that will grace our table this week. D chose Gouda; Mimi chose goat cheese. I'm looking forward to both of them! As we're stretching them, the Lord is stretching me - more like prying my fingers away from my desire to control everything. I'm thankful that He continues to shape and conform me. And, the benefits keep coming. Sweet Mimi just asked if I wanted a glass of water as she headed to the kitchen. Love that girl and her big heart!

Who influenced CS Lewis?

I love reading books by CS Lewis. Hs way of thinking is engaging and inspiriing to me. When I heard about "From the Library of CS Lewis," I was intrigued, eager to explore the writings of men and women who influenced Lewis. The book does not disappoint. It is packed with exerpts from a variety of authors. An excellent resource. However, it's not a book that one would sit down and read through. The writings are grouped by topic, but I found them a bit disjointed to simply read one after another. Each had "something to chew on," more like a devotional. I wanted to pause after reading each one to ponder its truths. I think it will be an excellent resource in the future. Additionally, the book does not go into detail about how each writer influenced Lewis. I received this book for free from Waterbrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review.

Questions to ask at the start of a new year

I love thinking about these questions. One of my favorite things is to look back on my answers from last year. My favorite from 2011? Tallulah's salvation - prayed for and answered by the Lord.

I'm not sure where I found these originally, but they have become a personal tradition.

Questions to Ask at the Start of a New Year or On Your Birthday

Once, when the people of God had become careless in their relationship with

Him, the Lord rebuked them through the prophet Haggai.  “Consider your ways!” (Haggai 1:5) he declared, urging them to reflect on some of the things happening to them, and to evaluate their slipshod spirituality in light of what God had told them. 

The beginning of a new year is an ideal time to stop, look up, and get our bearings.  To that end, here are some questions to ask prayerfully in the presence of God.

1. What’s one thing you could do this year to increase your enjoyment of God?

2. What’s the most humanly impossible thing you will ask God to do this year?

3. What’s the single most important thing you could do to improve the quality of your family life this year?

4. In which spiritual discipline do you most want to make progress this year, and what will you do about it?

5. What is the single biggest time-waster in your life, and what will you do about it this year?

6. What is the most helpful new way you could strengthen your church?

7. For whose salvation will you pray most fervently this year?

8. What’s the most important way you will, by God’s grace, try to make this year different from last year?

9. What one thing could you do to improve your prayer life this year?

10. What single thing that you plan to do this year will matter most in ten years?  In eternity?

11. What’s the most important decision you need to make this year?

12. What area of your life most needs simplifying, and what’s one way you could simplify in that area?

13. What’s the most important need you feel burdened to meet this year?

14. What habit would you most like to establish this year?

15. Who is the person you most want to encourage this year?

16. What is your most important financial goal this year, and what is the most important step you can take toward achieving it?

Where your treasure is, ...

I recently finished The Treasure Principle by Randy Alcorn. It's a little book with a big punch. In it, Alcorn addresses giving, a topic some avoid and others misinterpret. In my opinion, Alcorn does a great job of looking at God's Word and interpreting it well.

The book centers around six key principles:

1. God owns everything. I'm His money manager.
2. My heart always goes where I put God's money.
3. Heaven, not earth, is my home.
4. I should live not for the dot but for the line.
5. Giving is the only antidote to materialism.
6. God prospers me not to raise my standard of living, but to raise my standard of giving. 

Alcorn repeatedly reminds us that all we have belongs to the Lord. Living in a prosperous society makes it easy to forget that we are merely stewards. And, he presents these truths in such an enticing way, I am eager to be shaped to be more like Christ in this way.

I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review.

Refreshingly honest

While reading Life, In Spite of Me, by Kristen Jane Anderson, I was touched by her honesty about her struggles. I was also encouraged by how the Lord used her struggles to draw her to Himself.

I've never experienced the trials Kristen faced, but I can understand the helplessness she felt prior to knowing the Lord as her Savior, prior to her suicide attempt.

 I think this book would be a great encouragement to someone struggling with their purpose in life, someone who is lost. It's a great reminder that so many of us have similar struggles. I think it would be a great read for teens who feel like no one understands them.

Kristen writes, in detail, about the experiences leading up to her suicide attempt, her memories of that night and her life after she lost her legs. Her honesty is so refreshing.

The book flows easily. I read it in an afternoon.

I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review.